Relationships
and Marriage
I surely don’t have to tell you
folks how difficult marriages and relationships are. Even if you’ve never been married or in a relationship, you surely have friends and family who have.
And, you’ve seen the oftentimes-dire consequences.
There was a time many years ago when if someone got divorced, well…you just never talked about it or mentioned it. Few people got divorced and when they did, it was something only whispered about.
It seems today; divorces are oftentimes almost flaunted and celebrated; folks walking around with a chain around their neck with marriage rings like in old times with scalps and notches on guns.
Why the difference between then and now? Were vows taken more seriously in the distant past? Or, did societal norms make divorce more difficult and unacceptable?
I’ve often said that relationships seem to be time limited by what’s brought into them. Sort of like a lump sum of money. Depending upon the variables and spending habits it will only last a finite time and then you’re broke.
Of course, maybe in the old days many more marriages should have ended in divorce, as I’m sure there were many miserable marriages and marriages full of abuse that went on and on forever.
Oh, well.
I’m sure you aren’t expecting any sage advice from me and basically, I have none. And, if I did, we most likely wouldn’t pay any attention to it anyway.
Well, maybe I have two pieces of decent advice.
When your spouse or significant other (what a term) isn’t around, don’t do anything that you wouldn’t do if they were around.
And, two, never put yourself in a situation where you have to make a decision about, well….you know. Don’t put yourself in a situation where you have to say yes or no about doing something you know you shouldn’t be doing.
And, that’s about the best I can come up with.
There was a time many years ago when if someone got divorced, well…you just never talked about it or mentioned it. Few people got divorced and when they did, it was something only whispered about.
It seems today; divorces are oftentimes almost flaunted and celebrated; folks walking around with a chain around their neck with marriage rings like in old times with scalps and notches on guns.
Why the difference between then and now? Were vows taken more seriously in the distant past? Or, did societal norms make divorce more difficult and unacceptable?
I’ve often said that relationships seem to be time limited by what’s brought into them. Sort of like a lump sum of money. Depending upon the variables and spending habits it will only last a finite time and then you’re broke.
Of course, maybe in the old days many more marriages should have ended in divorce, as I’m sure there were many miserable marriages and marriages full of abuse that went on and on forever.
Oh, well.
I’m sure you aren’t expecting any sage advice from me and basically, I have none. And, if I did, we most likely wouldn’t pay any attention to it anyway.
Well, maybe I have two pieces of decent advice.
When your spouse or significant other (what a term) isn’t around, don’t do anything that you wouldn’t do if they were around.
And, two, never put yourself in a situation where you have to make a decision about, well….you know. Don’t put yourself in a situation where you have to say yes or no about doing something you know you shouldn’t be doing.
And, that’s about the best I can come up with.
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